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|Report Abuse |#22 Friday Dec 21
maybe scuba gear too LOL.. Do you think he snorkels or does he naturally breathe swamp gas?
Buddy Hinton Sturmgewehr
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|Report Abuse |#23 Sunday Dec 23
How do I come out of the closet after being married X amount of years and Gun store Owner / operator? Could ruin my business and my life.
YoMaMa
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|Report Abuse |#24 Sunday Dec 23
Buddy Hinton Sturmgewehr wrote:
How do I come out of the closet after being married X amount of years and Gun store Owner / operator? Could ruin my business and my life.
If you are gay, married (to the opposite sex) X amount of years, and a successful businessman, your life is already ruined for those years.
Full repair of your ruined life is to "come out of the closet" and reclaim your true self.
Only by first being honest with yourself, can you be truly honest with the people around you.
Buddy Hinton Sturmgewehr
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|Report Abuse |#25 Wednesday Jan 2
I am interested in embracing what is unique about being gay.The more I can recognize how I was made to feel ashamed for being gay . I believe staying in the closet and creating a false identity is not the answer. I grew up in a heterosexual Texas family in which I was reared as if were heterosexual and was constantly brain washed that heterosexuality was the only reality. Any expression of my Gay Self would result in receiving violent treatments from my father a texas ranger. This violent homophobic society was too scary for me to express my genuine Gay Self. I need help i just don't no what to do.
OneBallBoi
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|Report Abuse |#26 Wednesday Jan 2
Some of us will always be in the closet to some loved ones. We have to be.
LindaS
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|Report Abuse |#27 Wednesday Jan 2
Buddy Hinton Sturmgewehr wrote:
I am interested in embracing what is unique about being gay.The more I can recognize how I was made to feel ashamed for being gay . I believe staying in the closet and creating a false identity is not the answer. I grew up in a heterosexual Texas family in which I was reared as if were heterosexual and was constantly brain washed that heterosexuality was the only reality. Any expression of my Gay Self would result in receiving violent treatments from my father a texas ranger. This violent homophobic society was too scary for me to express my genuine Gay Self. I need help i just don't no what to do.
Does your wife have any idea about your feelings? How do you think she would take that news? That would be the first place to start, but slowly and carefully.
Tre H
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|Report Abuse |#28 Thursday Jan 3
Buddy Hinton Sturmgewehr wrote:
I am interested in embracing what is unique about being gay.The more I can recognize how I was made to feel ashamed for being gay . I believe staying in the closet and creating a false identity is not the answer. I grew up in a heterosexual Texas family in which I was reared as if were heterosexual and was constantly brain washed that heterosexuality was the only reality. Any expression of my Gay Self would result in receiving violent treatments from my father a texas ranger. This violent homophobic society was too scary for me to express my genuine Gay Self. I need help i just don't no what to do.
Can't say I know what to do in your situation, but if you're not happy and in love with your wife, you are not doing either of you any favors by staying married.
"The truth shall set you free" may be a cliche, but it's true. You may have to re-evaluate your entire life, but it's more important to focus on being true to yourself and your future than to get stuck in the past and worry about everyone else's expectations of you.
You may lose some people in the process, but you will gain new friends and loved ones who accept the real you, not who they want you to be. It may be difficult to take the first step, but once you do, it will eventually become very liberating.
Buddy Hinton Sturmgewehr
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|Report Abuse |#29 14 hrs ago
LindaS wrote:
Does your wife have any idea about your feelings? How do you think she would take that news? That would be the first place to start, but slowly and carefully.
My wife is 47 years old. How do you think she take this? Lately, I have been distant: hands-off when she wants me to be hands-on, too busy or too tired when she wants to talk. She has suspicious blood, my wife. My wife and I have been married for over 27 years, and it's been absolutely idyllic , except for my problem. I know that homosexuality is wrong. My question is that what does one do if they have overwhelming urges and thoughts towards it? I have feelings of hate sometimes, but I do not act them out. I want to satisfy my sexual urges.I really have no idea even where I want to go from here, and when I say I ought to come to terms with my homosexuality, I'm not even sure myself.
LindaS
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|Report Abuse |#30 6 hrs ago
Buddy Hinton Sturmgewehr wrote:
I was about in your position when I came out. I have also talked with others in in similar situations as well. I do not know how she would react, because I have learned that it is very hard to predict such things, even if you know the person well.
It sounds like she is suspicious that something is wrong because your marriage is not as happy as it once was. This would be the time to slowly and carefully start discussions with her about your marriage. If your marriage was once idyllic, you must have had good communication between you. Should I take from what you have said that you have not acted on your desires as yet? It would be much more kind of you do be honest with her without acting on your feelings.
Do not automatically assume that she will leave you if she knows your feelings. And do not just drop it on her like a bomb, it may take her a while to hear you.
How is it that you "know'' homosexuality is wrong?
Buddy Hinton Sturmgewehr
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|Report Abuse |#31 21 min ago
""""'' homosexuality is wrong?""" And you know the funny thing about that is? I started to write that because a friend of mine . We talked during a bible study and how he knew homosexuality is wrong by reading the gospels and that homosexuality is an abomination. He implies that "true" Christians know homosexuality is wrong. I didn't know what to say!!!! Im very confused I guess. Thats why i was looking for support . Society has historically confused homosexuality with sickness or sin and somep lace i bought into that. Sorry.
Buddy Hinton Sturmgewehr
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|Report Abuse |#32 3 min ago
"""Should I take from what you have said that you have not acted on your desires as yet? """" Even at an early age 15 I knew I was gay. When I was a boy friends made odd remarks playing around with others ; "he's gay"; "he's a faggot'; "he's a pervert"; "Don't go near him, he's queer" sort of thing which did hurt as inside I knew I was gay myself. Basically, I heard the usual prejudices and stereotypes. This made me feel sad at first, then angry. This whole situation has sent me into a deep depression and makes me feel worthless. Im hoping for me, coming out makes me feel alive. I'm tired. I'm sorry,this is kinda a rant. Thanks for your help linda.
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